He writes:
While it is by no means essential, many people like to weave a scene around a spanking. Without it, what reason would there be to put a girl across a knee to be smacked? Some people involve corporal punishment for real life reasons such as over-spending, weight gain, lateness, untidiness etc in their relationships, but for many others a spanking needs to be basically fun and is generally employed as a form of sexual foreplay. This does not mean that the scene itself should be all giggles! With a little effort, things can be made quite realistic, with stern lectures, scolding, corner-time, and some of the later smacks can be quite intense depending on what has been agreed between partners.
Initially
it often feels very awkward and embarrassing to play-act in this way. And the
thought of "acting", particularly in the company of one's partner,
seems daunting. It is very likely (unless you really are an actor!) that early
attempts will result in lots of self-conscious giggling and hilarity, resulting
in a less than convincing scene. But this is not important, since it is all
valuable rehearsal of speech and action that will become more realistic in due
course.
It is not necessary to work to a set 'script', with sentences memorised, and an expectation to be word perfect. Often just a few 'key' words and phrases, thrown in when the moment feels right, are all that is needed to send your partner off into another realm, where their own mind throws up all the right responses spontaneously. Take time to discuss what these 'key' words are. Following a session, ask if anything you said was a trigger for your partner, or perhaps they have a special phrase which always features in their fantasy? Did it work for them? And what was the moment that sent them over the edge? Be aware that it is always possible that something you say may have the reverse affect, and they may suggest that you don't use it in future.
This advice works from both the 'top' and 'submissive' perspectives. A submissive may be sent into seventh heaven by being told "I'm going to take your knickers down for a spanking". And on the other hand, the dominant may get their thrill from a specific response, such as "Oh! Please don't spank me too hard, Sir!" And sometimes, the exact word is crucial. "Knickers" may be right for one person, while "pants" or "panties" may work better for another. "A spanking" may hold a particular resonance for one, while "a good smacked bottom" may stir another.
Over time, these words, phrases, actions and timings become second nature, until without noticing, it feels perfectly natural to assume a role as a scene begins.
One of the all time favourite scenes is to act out the classic "headmaster/schoolgirl" episode. Some people have a problem with the age aspect of this scene and this is understandable, but experience has shown that many females enjoy the mental regression that this scenario provides. Few people can identify the roots of their own personal spanking fetish, but it seems very common for both spanker and spankee to find fuel for their fantasies in the classroom.
With familiarity, a very brief discussion about what sort of scene the other is in the mood for, will paint a clear picture of the correct role to adopt for a particular session, and practised dialogue will come to mind automatically. And with this comes the confidence to experiment with new roles, and more elaborate scenes.
She writes:
Thoughts from a strictly part-time minor
Do I look foolish playing a schoolgirl? Probably [he: No!]. Do I feel foolish? No, not when experience has taught that a small number of crucial props, a sketch of a 'plot' for the scene, and his Dominess's best scowl are all in place.
I've been all kinds of chastised females, from the classic schoolgirl, the wayward secretary, a slave, a naughty 'daughter', to a maid, a wicked wench and a slut. The kinky wardrobe has burgeoned as the scenes have proliferated. And each time we role-play (which we don't always do for a spanking) there is a liberating thrill of becoming someone else who is still really me.
Acting skills? None. But less is definitely more. The little nuances of body language and verbal expression are more important (on both sides) than a full-on RADA performance. And the further one goes into role, the more easily those nuances emerge, even if you've never been a wench or a secretary in real life. You draw on what you know and your imagination to create a character for yourself (and your playing partner), but it is in the interaction between the two of you that the real energy of role-playing is generated, bouncing phrases and postures off one another, building the scene in words and tone, as much as in actions.
Role-play is a powerful form of erotic theatre. It allows the exercising of your fantasies in the real world. It releases you from the constraints and habits of your everyday persona. With a mutual audience of one another, it is possible to create an erotic tension that feeds from fantasies and transforms them into a vicarious experience of the otherwise impossible.
Clothing and props can be very powerful tools in role-play. Sex shops and fetish retailers will try and schtick you for pretend school uniforms and other kinky outfits, charging more money than you'd believe. With imagination and a browsing eye, it's possible to concoct a play outfit that is perfectly tailored to your fantasies. And if your subbie can play seamstress, well, the only limit is the imagination. But as children's average size increases each year, school uniforms get larger too. A 13 year old schoolgirl seems now to be the same dimensions as an average grown female. And so are the uniforms designed for her. It can make all those 'Back to School' promotions a terrible temptation tho'.... And then of course there are charity shops, goldmines of the adaptable, the old-fashioned, the improbable. And oh so cheap. If one is not a purist in these matters, attire can be collected for very little cash. And let the sex shops keep their tacky fakes.
Props, the odd object used to capture the essence of a scene, resonate wonderfully. The traditional school cane. Some folk have invested in an old-fashioned school desk and blackboard. A satchel maybe? Or office props. But there are more fugitive props which can be really creative of erotic tension. The school report or the note brought home from teacher. The note to the headmaster. Now those can make a scene really take off. And all home-made. Plus, a terrific way of precipitating a scene one partner is in the mood for - try handing him your school report dressed in a school uniform! And watch the reaction....
Role-play can be relatively light-hearted play. It can also be
very challenging and emotionally stretching. And some scenes inevitably carry
more psychological danger than others. Role-playing rape is not everyone's idea
of a good time. But it can be done and can be very exciting. Because of course,
it isn't really rape by definition, since it is done with consent and
cheerfulness. But that frisson of being forced (which would never exist in
actuality) can be captured in role-play, as both partners visit taboo fantasies
that are only fantasies. Role-play gives permission to be and do things that
would never be acceptable in real life. An entry into a forbidden zone.
Just like age-play. Role-playing child and adult in a spanking scenario with or without (always with, in our case) a sexual element, may appear like pseudo- or quasi-paedophilia. But playing such a scene with two grown-ups at worst makes you a kinky soul, and not a potential criminal. No adult female can really look like a little girl. But with the right attire and language, both oral and body, she can convey something of the little girl in her while retaining all her adult knowledge and power. And for the Dom, there is an illicit thrill, which may be accompanied by an ethical discomfort. And that's a good thing. Straying into roles and scenarios that one or other of the partners might find triggers dangerous stuff in their minds, and should not be entered into lightly or casually. Role-play may free us from the constraints of the everyday, but we do not leave all our beliefs or life experiences behind with the adoption of a role.
The human mind is the biggest sexual organ of them all. Given permission to roam and experiment, it can create scenes of tremendous eroticism. But above all mutual fun. It can take time to develop confidence in a partner, to know that they won't simply laugh at you or criticise you for getting it wrong, but will instead match their imagination to yours and engage in a dialogue of the mind. It takes attentiveness to where the other person's head is at, a willingness to risk voicing what may have been secretly locked in your head, a sense of humour, and an ability to see beyond the obvious, the makeshift quality of the set and costumes, and into what is represented by what you can see and hear.
Dress and Props
Since we all have a degree of difficulty with the play-acting aspect, it can help enormously to dress for the part. Once dressed in the clothing of your chosen 'victim', it becomes very much easier to relax into the role, possibly using a few props or furniture to add to the feeling of realism.
Often, the full wardrobe is not necessary, perhaps adding a tie to a standard issue white blouse is all that it takes to transform an ordinary outfit into a convincing schoolgirl. Or how about making use of that black skirt and jacket reserved for interviews? With just a little imagination, otherwise very ordinary clothing suddenly transforms into something deliciously kinky
